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I love the journey of personal discovery; I am a curious person of people. Why do we do what we do and how did we learn the habits and behaviours that we did. So, its this curiosity that started when I hit my thirties, I wanted to know more about me, why did I think such negative things about myself, what was it that held me back. I was so good at holding myself back. And I was full of excuses as to why I could not do this or that. I had always wanted to teach but of course I could not do that because my negative talk was so bad I was convinced that I had nothing to offer. When I learnt my style of learning my world changed and to this day, I am a self-obsessed lifelong leaner. That curiosity is still with me, and I think it keeps me young. After my own learnings I wanted to share with others the magic that I had found, and this gave me the platform I needed to share to teach to assist to give. By nature, I am very generous, I love to give gifts for no reason just because I saw this or that and knew you would like it, there is no expectation on this I just like to give. I am like that with almost everything I do, if you are in one of my training sessions or you’re coaching with me I will give you all you need and more, because kindness is in my blood thanks to my lovely parents who were so kind to their community. Coaching is an extension of how I work it’s that special space where I give you 100% of my attention (like where else do you get that?) its just one of my gifts to you. When you choose to Coach with me, I know you have really considered it and that you are willing to put in the effort and make the changes that will have you thrive. I have been Coaching for many years I teach Coaching and I support our community of Coaches. Yet it was not until I overheard someone at a networking event I was at say “Yeah Jane have you done Coaching with Annette?” it really made me think yes I have done a lot of coaching over the years and those that give a to me a referral will say they were suggested to do some Coaching with Annette. Even thought I am the founder of Biznorth now in its 22 year I am the Master Coach in the business so it really was time that I created my brand of Coaching, so I welcome you to Coaching with Annette. I look forward to sharing more information, tips and techniques with you to have you curious about your life and how you can be happier.

Like me you are probably thinking OMG where has the year gone right! Every years seems to go so fast! Its very rare for me to say I have had the most terrible 6 months (sure there had been other times) this six months hit me really hard. I took on a six-month full-time project and it was full on, everything I had learnt in my 64 years of life was bundled up into the first 6 months of 2024 and I used every single thing in my kit back to get through some tough stuff. It was a project that was hard but enjoyable for around 4.5 months, then once I got the toughest part of the project through no one not one person acknowledged what I had done. Don’t get me wrong I did need sloppy words or feet kissing just a simple thanks job well done would have done the trick. But no, not a word from anyone except one person on my team and I am very grateful for his words. At that same time my treasured and very close sista (from another mister) my sister in law suddenly became sick so sick I was with her when her life support was removed and then she left this physical world. Heartbroken I grieved her and the closing of the project that now had absolutely no one speaking to me, the executive team that I worked with shutdown clearly I was not wanted on the team and yet I had dedicated myself to this project. I have no answers to this day why this happened, I gave so much to them that I lost a good client from my business and then Bev gained her angle wings and life for me felt like a series of losses. My thoughts were painful and I needed to find a way to get out of the grief of the project accept the grief of my darling Sista and pivot back into my business that has always been there for me. There was some really special moments, I was wrapped in love and support by my brother, his wife and children of my sista Bev. A love that I had not felt in many years, the love of family a closeness that had been lost once my own parents had departed this earth. I cherish what this time gave me. Sad exhausted lost I returned to Darwin and my supportive husband Doug who has been there for me always. He understood the pain I was in and did not push nor demand. He gently guided me to do what my mind and body was saying. I took a week off and just did what I wanted to do which happened to be reading sleeping and hanging out with Lucy. Then the business phone rang and there before me were three to four fantastic clients that wanted me to work with them. I was so grateful but still really tired. So, the time had come for me to find the inspiration of working and living again. This is when I engage “Coaching with Annette” I had to be my own Coach and the very first thing I did was gave myself permission to grieve. The next step was to forgive yep forgive myself and them, not easy but possible. Next came what did I learn about myself OH man I learnt heaps and it was all good too. Journalling is my friend and while I recently had a lapse in journalling I am back at it I love my pen and paper. There are more steps which I want to share with you intimate steps that you will understand and you will embrace. On Saturday 21 September from 10am till 1pm at The Clock Tower Centre, 1 Caryota Ct, Coconut Grove NT 0810 I will take you through this heartfelt journey of resetting only 10 places $88 Register Here Dive deep into this free resource to help you reset.

It’s been a long time coming that I decided to NAME my coaching service. I have been coaching for a long time and while in some of my areas of work I can be the speed queen there are others where I tend to be a little “holding back” not wanting to get out there with something until it is perfect. Can’t believe I am saying that as the word perfect in my world is about an excuse to not do it. I was a bit the same when I founded Biznorth and had to let service offering sit with me until I was comfortable. It is through my work with Biznorth that I realised that when others were talking about me in the context of coaching that they would say oh have you done “coaching with Annette” some would say that they had me in their head when it came later that they were mastering their changes. So, it just seemed right to me that I offer people to do Coaching with Annette. No fancy names no crazy promises just down to earth solid support to untangle the thoughts that create challenges and project out unproductive behaviours. When you are coaching with me, I give you my full 100% attention there are times when you will need that little bit extra (a check up call during a tough situation or maybe a nice SMS picture) I will be there because its my honour to be at your side as you navigate challenges and change. One of the things I have always enjoyed doing is helping others, seeing others advance and change. Its why I became and adult educator nothing greater than seeing others take flight. I also watched my Mum and Dad both beautiful kind generous people who helped many others Mum making meals for others Dad fixing their cars when they had no money. The joy it brought my parents was really obvious, Dad I recall once was upset that a bloke’s car he fixed didn’t say thank you, the only payment Dad wanted was a sincere thank you and handshake. So, I think that the joy of helping others was influenced upon me at a young age, my brothers are similar too. There have been times in my life when I had wished that I was able to have coaching with an insightful person who could really help me to see what I could not see and offer some suggestion to change. True story my first psychic reading was because I was hating the process of counselling and wanted practical option even solution, so I headed to a physic who offered me sound advice which was you know what you want to do and when you do walk through the door to the change you will never look back. I did do that though like many others it took me a little time to feel the fear and do it anyway. My experience as a coach comes from my life experiences (some are similar to my clients) lessons and learnings, the studies I have done, my personal development which I take very seriously and seek to learn daily and most importantly from all the wonderful people the kind the soft the mean and the damn awful people I have encountered. I take full responsibility for every thought and action that I make even if it is good or if it is bad.

“a lotus blossoms within deep rich muddy water into which she plunges her roots and draws great nourishment from this mud, growth happens, and great beauty is revealed. Your soul lotus thrives through the depth of emotion and awareness of your body into which she can plant herself and unfold as a lotus of light”. We are always learning if we are open to the flow of life experiences. The steps are presented to us, always reminding that we are here in the moment, the now. I believe that out flexibility in thinking and in behavior can become part of what makes us a powerful instrument to transform, take action and to grow in knowledge. First we must accept our role our responsibility in that the mud, if not we cannot open out and bloom. In my work with you I support you to untangle the various roots of life that restrict your growth. As you become and untangles you will enjoy life more as you grow and trust (yourself) increasing your wisdom self-love and acceptance. So no matter how much mud and water you are emersed in, like the lotus you can rise up and be open to the essence of life. I get it, your dealing with different levels of mud and water, foreign objects that are new to you and you may feel apprehensive, fearful of the unknown and a range of other emotions that may lead to unhelpful behaviour. My thirty plus years I have gained a deep understanding of human behaviour and emotions, I too have had experiences that put me in the mud, yet with support I found the sun that allowed me to rise and bloom in my full colour. So if your wanting to have your lotus flower bloom consider a discovery call with me and together lets test the depths of the mud around you, you will be safe and supported.

What is it to have done every aspect perfectly, to be perfect?1 Certainly in engineering perfection of the mechanics is essential but it doesn't always go fully to plan. One small item may break fall off and cause a catastrophic event. The human aspect to achieve perfection is not as straightforward. Many of those I work with strive for the perfect P Often the desire for perfection has derived from the early narrative they have heard repetitively. Don't hold your knife like that, do it like this. Sit up straight, no you can't help you will only make a mess. Surely you can get better grades than that put some effort into it. Oh look you haven't done that properly do it again look you missed this bit. Even worse one of my clients shared how their parent insisted on them entering craft competitions and when my client was asleep aged 8 years the parent would recreate the craft item so it was perfect while they slept. To wake to the item now recreated entered into the competition which would now win. The message being received can be interpreted as not good enough can't get it right feeling left out not up to standard and much much more. Our logical mind says no one is perfect yet our emotions say I am not doing it well enough I can't do anything right or I am not enough etc. Striving for the perfect P can result in inertia no action why have a go or try if I am not going to succeed. The ups and downs or the 5 stages of Learning make it too uncertain for some to embrace the journey hence they may miss out on going for the job made for them. Having a go at something new.

Picture this, one long thick strong rope. At one end, a group of humans that are focused, strong, and determined.